Guilt

Guilt is an emotion, a state of mind, which is very central in our society.
It's used as a motivator in raising children and even when these children are parents themselves their parents can exercise their influence by using guilt.

Guilt isn't a wanted emotion in buddhism.
It's a signal of attachment to an idea of how things or a person should be.
It's not living in the present, and it's certainly not linked to care and compassion at all.

Some people set their standards so high that we will never be able to live up to them.
So we will always long to be another person, instead of making the best out of the present.

Most important is to know how we can change into a person we want to be.
When we know how, we can practice.
Valuing a person for working each day to become a better person creates a gigantic motivation.